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Allowing

5/18/2017

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And vice versa.  Sometimes you don't realize you are resisting, but if you aren't allowing, you are resisting.  Funny how one feels very active and the other not. 

I am constantly needing to remind myself (be mindful), that I am here to experience.  And that means in every way, the "good" and the "bad".  This is particularly hard with people when you have an expectation of how they should interact with you, and when that doesn't happen feeling very disappointed and then sent into a tailspin of thinking you can do something to get them to do what you thought they should.  Can you tell them what you expect? Sure. It doesn't guarantee an outcome though.  Indeed, I would submit that you might be tampering with their experience in the world. 
It's an amazing paradox to me. How if can feel at once so free to be in the place of allowing, and just experiencing what comes; and feeling so powerless as to be utterly terrified at the same time.  I am learning it really takes time to let go of that need to control and to really be in a place of....well, allowing.   Even when you have come to that spot, staying there is hard.  And I have to allow that too.

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Beautiful practices

5/9/2017

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Love after Love

The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other's welcome,


and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

~ Derek Walcott
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Someone else's reality, does NOT have to be yours.

5/8/2017

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May 06th, 2017

5/6/2017

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It's empty....yes empty. I can't do anything about it.  it won't let me delete it. 
Ok, well it's not empty now.  And now I need to let go
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Another idea that spoke to me

5/6/2017

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The following is an email from Attorney and Spiritual Warrior- Sarah Ouelette, one of the women visionaries I follow.  This goes along with the "allowing" I am trying to foster in my own life.  It is necessary to allow others to be whatever they are choosing to be.  Often that means letting go of your expectations of how that person is going to show up in your life, it's tough (and sometimes it can mean they aren't IN your life), but very necessary.  We can't control other people, because it's exhausting, often temporary and it robs that person of their own experience. Even when what you would control seems like it would be for the greater good.  What is really important is to not allow how they have decided to show up in life to make you feel like YOU are less.  You get to believe in your light and let it shine. Even when no one sees.

"This is the GOD to HONEST TRUTH .... those that choose LIGHT and those that choose DARKNESS, both see your shine. That's just the way it is.

Here's what you must understand.  The brighter you SHINE the more darkness will attempt to hold you down, stunt your growth and pretend like they don't see who you are, what you are. 

But here's the crazy thing - people only do this as a GIFT to you. You'll hear them tell you what THEY are choosing .... and if they aren't supporting you, showing up as the blessing you choose to be AS LOVE - they gift you the truth that sets YOU FREE.

But you'll only receive it if you are open, willing and able to see it.  You'll notice they actually SCREAM .... "Yes, I see your shine but I'M NOT CHOOSING IT!"

And that is a very SPECIAL GIFT. RECEIVE IT! Honor it! Thank them and move on WITH YOUR SHINE!

Honor the message. Refuse to SHOOT the messenger even if the message reveals the special soul before you isn't choosing what you'd like them to choose.

Honor the message even when the special someone in your presence tells you they don't care to know about love, don't see love and they are unwilling and absolutely not choosing love. (Your message truly can be this CRYSTAL CLEAR... if you allow it to be)

This is a message straight from the purest essence of love gifting you an opportunity to remain in LOVE, get your ultra shine on and allow that soul to be whatever it's choosing to be.  

Love just set your very soul FREE. THANK YOU! "   Sarah Ouelette



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Let Go of What You Want (Monkey Trap)  An article that reminds me - from Elephant Journal

5/3/2017

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Let me be clear, this isn't my writing, it's just an article I need to remember.  I gave credit at the end

"I think it comes easier for me to fill up on amazing things because I never had any preconceived notion of how or that they would come in the first place. I never tainted all of the avenues in which they could come by being so attached to how it looked that I shut down other possibilities. I knew how I wanted to feel, and I kept feeling…that.


I often say that I’d never let my love (for one person) stand in the way of my lifestyle. I’d always choose feeling “happy” over feeling “love” if the love was madness. This notion actually adds to the extent of which I’m capable of loving because it’s free love, it is a choice. I want to be there.
So often I see people choosing “love” over “happiness” as if they’re stuck in love. They are often the same people that fall in love but have trouble staying in love.
Clients come in with a story that’s already embedded in every one of their neuro-pathways that “this is how a relationship should be” or “this is what is true about relationships” or “I’m in this relationship but can’t accept this, this, and this, about it.”
To my demise and benefit, I didn’t have examples of the kind of relationship that I would want, so I never got stuck on needing to have one. I never had childhood day dreams of growing up and being a mother, or wearing a wedding dress. I never considered what kind of work I would do or where I would go.
What I’m proposing is a bit like the monkey trap. Monkeys are captured in India through a bottle that is big enough to fit their hand in and out of, with a banana placed inside. The monkey is so consumed by having the goods inside of the bottle that before a capturer comes to throw a bag over its head, the monkey does not release the banana even though he’s terrified he’s about to get captured. The hole is large enough for the monkey’s hand, but not large enough for his hand and the banana together. The monkey gives up his life for the sake of hanging on to this stupid banana when if he’d just let go, he’d be free.
That banana is emblematic of the projections I see so many people hanging onto about what their life “should” look like.
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“My relationship should look like this so I’m failing to enjoy the relationships I’m in.”
“I should have kids by this time so I’m using my energy to be envious.”
“I should have a nicer home by now, so I can’t stand to come to my own sanctuary every day.”
The list is endless—and it’s all just bananas.
That monkey could go into the wilderness and get a better banana, for free, maybe even with enough to go around, but he can’t let go of his attachment to getting this one banana. Beyond the attachment to the banana itself, he can’t let go of what he needs to do to get the banana he wants.
My bananas were somewhere in a vast wilderness, scary as anything, but free from mental captivity of “this is how you get bananas” and “this is the banana I have to have,” so much that I’d give up my essence to obtain it.
Partnerships and motherhood came easy to me, simply because I could take it or leave it. If it came, I’d find a way to see it as a blessing. If it didn’t, I’d find a way to see it as a blessing. If it left, I’d find a way to see it as a blessing.
I never wanted it enough to give up on it completely after a disappointment, and I never completely wanted it enough to give up my true essence for it.
I focused on how I wanted to feel and swung to a different tree if I didn’t feel 100% like myself. In the process of not sitting in the branches hoping for the tree to change or grow me more bananas, of not tainting my life experience with being stuck in the same tree when I could’ve roamed free, or having my hand stuck in someone else’s trap for what my life should feel like, I found a whole forrest with my name written all over it. Here, the bananas are endless.
People miss this part: they miss the thing they’re really wanting. The monkey might want the banana because he’s hungry or because he’s bored. The banana is just a symbol for what he really wants. Food or a toy to play with.
If I wanted a relationship, I found ways to be in an intimate relationship with everyone I knew. I became radically honest and crazy authentic. If I wanted kids, I’d go teach someone else’s kids if I didn’t already have them. If I wanted a better house, I’d say everyday how grateful I am for the one I’ve already got.
I’m not confused about what I want. What I want is to quench my thirst for life. Not having the glass I want to drink it out of isn’t going to stop me from cupping my hands and drinking it from a raging river.
A friend once stuck out her open hand in a cupped position and said, “If I poured water into my hand, how would I keep it?” I stared. She replied, “If I closed my hand to keep the water, it would all slip through my finger tips. The only way I can keep it, is by keeping it open.”
I remained open to how things would come and how things would go. This way of being has led me to places I’d never dare to dream of, inside of myself and inside of my life.
Let go of your bananas.
Stay open.
Drink whatever water tastes good no matter what container it comes in.
It all comes.
This, I promise.
Bonus: To be happy, think of others first. To be unhappy, think only of oneself"

~
Stacy Hoch
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