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Where I am From

4/30/2019

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I am from sun-filled days in the field, my brother and I dancing with sugar beet tops on our heads like we were Indians with headdresses.  
I am from a man's world where the boys were more valued, and the girls where the homemakers who should keep their belly's sucked in.
I am from that basement where I lived in MY world, the girl who could do anything: fashion designer, astronaut, pilot, inventor, singer, dancer, writer.  
I am from the world where upon emerging, the world set about to crush those dreams out of the girl.
And yet I clung to myself.
I am from the world of jocks being esteemed, the brains were geeks.
And yet I clung to myself.
I am from a world that values money over authenticity;  values looks over compassion; safety over freedom.  Teaches that you are not enough even as you come from the womb....
I am from loving the boy to distraction and the world we created with our inside jokes and made up words.
I am from losing myself when I lost him.
I am from becoming a better mother when I had less to mother.
I am from a world that gradually convinced me that the self I clung to was the mistake.  That I should be different and do more.
I am from a family of strong women, whose legacy I was terrified to make my own, and that when it came to pass, left me feeling a failure.
I am from feeling so crushed when I woke up and realized I was nothing I thought I should be.
I am from having to find that self I had clung to, buried deep within, and realizing I was there all along, I just hadn't been listening.
I am from the knowing.
I am from the knowing that none of the world's expectation need be my own.  
From the knowing that we all are born just as we need to be and can embrace that at any moment--needs letting go.
Letting go is hard, when just a short distance away, revolves the world, ready to suck you in and make you forget. When goals you've set are from the world, but you are from the universe.
I am from you.  
I am from everything, and nothing.
I am.
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Working through

6/8/2018

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Once again, finding myself needing to work through something that showed back up.  I'm really amazed at how many times you have to let something go....and I don't mean just like the original time it showed up, then years later when the same situation presents itself.   I mean literally minutes, or even seconds later....my ego has grasped onto it again. 
Yup!! Now would be the time to take advantage of using art journaling to become present....now....to convince myself I have time for it.   Of course I do, I mean, that's something you can do in even just 30 minutes.  And what's more, it's an investement in myself.   Which opens up another struggle, why I procrastinate taking care of myself.  It feels like a drag, when I just want to NOT do anything....it feels like work to get out the supplies and decide what to work on.....sudden overwhelm.  But then I'm filling my time with empty calories like mindlessly watching tv.  Hmmmm.....mindlessly....yeah, I think more than likely it's avoiding feeling those feelings.  Or the fear that it won't work?  Or I'll do it wrong.....all silly, but there it is.
So.....reminding myself:  You are here to experience, ALL of it.  It doesn't mean you will enjoy all of it.  And you can't get it perfect.  Even if there was such a thing, getting it perfect doesn't mean it will all feel good......but it will mean you are living. 
Breath, step back, remember to be patient with myself, remember that while I have to allow others, more importantly: I have allow myself.  And love myself while I do. 

makes my mantra more applicable yet again......ha! think someone is telling me something?

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again and again.....sometimes every second....

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pondering

3/19/2018

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I came across a quote today, attributed to Pablo Picasso.  "Computers are useless, they can only give you answers"  (I looked it up, seems like it might be his, although slightly misquoted, he responding about " enormous new mechanical brains or calculating machines"......)
I think many then assume, sure the artist isn't about answers.  But it made me pause.  We, as humans, spend a remarkable amount of time looking for answers, unsatisfied with answers, disputing answers, thinking we have all the answers, fighting over answers. 
And what happens when you get the answer.  Often, you do one of the above.  Or, you judge yourself and/other based on that answer.  Are you happy once you get an answer? Satisfied or at peace?

What would happen if you just got ok with having questions?  Being curious? and not needing answers.
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waking up

3/16/2018

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you know why I think it sucks so much to lose someone you love from your life?  I mean, does it make sense that we are so sad about losing someone who obviously didn't care enough to be in your life.  I think it has far less to do with them as it does with us. I think the part you loved was your reflection, or what you love about yourself that you saw in that person, your idealized view of them.  So losing them from your life is like losing a part of you that you love.  I like to think it was about losing that opportunity to give love, but this feels more likely, especially since I am not that awake, yet......
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it's ugly

3/12/2018

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Is it strange what we decide about relationships?  Could it be we've gotten it sideways? We think other people are put here to make us happy.  But that is how we choose people for relationships.  If you do everything like I like it, AND you think I'm pretty cool, I'll be in a relationship with you.  I get stuck in that, for sure. I forget that in doing so I missing out on what I was put here for.  To experience.  That being said, I wouldn't mind experiencing more of the enjoyable stuff on a more regular basis.  In fact I would like it a lot, I'm tired of being strong and trying to give all those things to myself.  And when you're tired, yes, let your burden be carried....but I guess I'm still afraid. Afraid of getting more of what I don't enjoy....but then again, doing what I'm doing isn't getting it either, so why not rest.
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Rants I prefer not to blast on FB

2/26/2018

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oooohhhhh my!!  so many FB posts trigger me!!  I'm constantly staggered by the sheer number of people who insist society is right to refuse to allow people to live their lives as they see fit.
How are you right to decide about other peoples choices?  How are you right because it makes you uncomfortable, because it is unknown to you?  How are you right because it scares you?
How is hanging onto the known REALLY keeping you safe?  How is denying yourself your infinite possibility a better answer?
We are making SO many choices today based in FEAR.  Because of what might potentially happen in the future and screwing ourselves in the present!
We spend so much time and energy trying to figure out how to make our kids safe when the crazy and seemingly paradoxical truth is.....we need to spend that time and energy LOVING our kids.  THEN guess what?  They wouldn't be killing other kids!!!
I've struggled for long time trying to make sense of a truth I've been told, and a belief I've tried to hold onto, because it didn't pan out, it seemed to fall apart.  It's this:

We all are born with the innate ability to love ourselves. 

Why is this a truth?  Because we ARE love.  And a newborn baby is the purest essence there is.
So, what happens.  And this is where I've struggled: If we have that innate ability, why do so many of us NOT love ourselves?  What is wrong with us?  Well, we spend our formative years being taught just the opposite.  We are taught it's not ok to make mistakes, to give up our youthful exuberance for behaving, that it's NOT ok to just be us.  Right down to adults deciding that because you have certain genitalia, you have to look, dress and act a certain way.
 Even the religions that claim to teach the goodness of people, that you are part of God, that God forgives, send you down the wrong path by also instilling the belief that we are all sinners. After all, His own Son died for our sins.  I don't usually preach, but since this fits what I am talking about, I'll say it.  Jesus didn't die FOR our sins. He died BECAUSE of our sins.  WE were already saved.  He was just living the ultimate example of how you HAVE to allow others to believe and live as they will.  He gave his body's life for this principle.  And we won't even give up our own opinions for it.
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something, maybe

12/28/2017

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I've been making a mistake. I've been forgetting that PEOPLE are NOT the relationship.  Just because a relationship doesn't work out, doesn't make that person bad.  And that works both ways, for the other person, and especially for myself.   I am not the relationship.  Because one didn't work out doesn't make ME a failure, because I don't currently have a relationship, does not make ME a failure.
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I found a mint in my purse....

12/14/2017

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Struggling to ge grateful for the fleeting things.  Struggling to not feel to blame when I don't get what I want in my life.  I guess it's natural to want to keep doing the things that make you feel good.  Struggling with allowing myself to have that want and to be ok with not having it fulfilled.
I'm recognizing that I've fallen back into the habits of grasping and seeing only lack.  it is hard to let go of the habit of thinking things should be a certain way in order to feel happy or even ok....
Struggling to arrange my thinking that I can only get what I need from a certain type of relationship...that one is particularly hard.  I don' know if that is learned behavior, though, like I started to say.  I remember seeing a study years ago that if a babies parent ignored them,  even if they weren't actually in distress,  the baby would suffer from that lack.  I guess as adults we are supposed to have the emotional maturity to handle that.  Oopps...?
Noooo....not oops.  How was I supposed to learn that?  Certainly not from any relationship I've ever had, be it parents, friends or partners.  AND....it takes practice....then things change, and you have to tweak it and practice another way.  I have to forgive myself for not being perfect.  And for thinking I shouldn't feel these things OR for thinking I shouldn't be struggling.
We do need connection, I am just struggling to not cling to that need....not place expectations that another person has to fulfill that.  Should I be able to give that to myself?  I knot inner connection, sure and we are all connected as humans....but am I crazy in thinking that companionship is a need?  Or have we just so underdeveloped our connection to our inner selves, that we've relied on that. 
This is all ego talking....they've taken over for the time being.....
yes. definitely, I've even had it come to my mind in recent days that I still have a woundedness that surfaced...
has my left brain taken over? I'm noticing this all saying the same thing essentially as previously....but in a more objective way.  I wonder....maybe that side of my brain is the side that tries to control, through logic.  So I'm falling back on habits of protection.  That would fit.  Not to mention I really don't like this crying emotional side...haha.
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AH ha!!

12/13/2017

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Ashamed of being human.

12/13/2017

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 I've been feeling embarrassed to feel stuck. To be feeling lonely again.  To feel disconnected from my inner self.  I've been judging myself very harshly for not being able to stay in that place of loving myself, and living from my inner light (or trying too).  I feel so much like I am backsliding instead. Feeling full of should should should!  I should be ok being alone, I should be ok being lonely. I should not feel the need for companionship that doesn't fulfill or support me.....and should not settle for just any companionship just to have the contact for awhile (although at least I haven't fallen to calling a call center just to have someone to talk to....)
Why did I make myself such stringent rules?  Who said I "should"?  Why shouldn't I? or should I?
Maybe, there is no should....there just "is".......
I know it is me trying to run from the feelings of yuck.  If I developed that unfailing connection with my inner self, I wouldn't ever feel that way, and having achieved that connection at times, thinking I should be there all the time.  But....I'm human.  I'm a perfect light, put in an imperfect body, in an imperfect world, with a brain filled with imperfect beliefs that cause behaviors, behaviors that society and happenstance constantly reinforces.  NONE of it is truth, it just is.  I find myself needing the reminder...again, that this is something you practice.  It's just an end goal, you don't get to happy and just stay there. 

I was feeling embarrassed to blog yet again about the same feelings I dealt with only weeks ago.....then I realized, but that's exactly the point.  You are practicing, you aren't perfect.  You are living life, you might even be living a richer, broader experience than those people you see as happy with their marriages, 1.5 kids and 2.5 cars, 2 incomes and a house with a dog.   You might not have found someone to commune with, but you got to experience that person, even if only for a bit.   You might feel disappointed, but you TRIED. 

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